Sorry, I have been away…..I’ll be back soon! Want to know where I’ve been??? SCHOOL!
Check out my blog from my recent class!
xoxo
Sorry, I have been away…..I’ll be back soon! Want to know where I’ve been??? SCHOOL!
Check out my blog from my recent class!
xoxo

Happy New Year everyone! WE MADE IT
I am so excited for 2012 and what it has to offer. My 24th Birthday, Summer Internships, College Graduation…ahh! I’m screaming just thinking about everything. 2011 was indeed a stressful, and emotional year for me. I was able to learn a lot though.
I learned about the relationship or lack of relationship I had with GOD, and how i often depended on others for answers instead of him. I learned how I didn’t truly trust him when things got rough when the bible tells us to “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge him,and he will make your paths straight.”-Proverbs 3:5-6. I found myself at a point where i hit rock bottom, and for a minute I didn’t know if I could make it through. I found myself dealing with people who I had once let go, but let them back in my life and my circle of friends turned into a circle of associates and the casual “hello’s”.
But I made it, and 2012 doesn’t scare me. I know that I will have bad days, and things might not work out exactly how I may currently see them. But GOD is directing my paths, and I trust him. I want to encourage you all to make 2012 a great year. Make moves and be great!
She often lived a life trying to get acceptance from other people. So who was she? She was naïve, and young. She believed life was a fairy tale and had happy endings until her prince never came looking for her with her glass slipper. She believed that families would last forever until her mother died 3 years ago. She believed that it was actually possible to graduate college within 4 years until she changed majors three times. She was the one who had lots of friends till she realized she was the only one being the friend. She was the one who always smiled but cried inside. The one who often let people go but somehow always let them back in. The one who settled for less when her mom always taught her to never settle for any mess. The one who was often taken for granted, and under-estimated. The one who could give the advice but wouldn’t take her own. That “she” was me…
But I’ve realized that life is not a fairy tale and we have to be ok with the fact that sometimes we’ll have bad days, all relationships don’t work out, and that you’ll probably only have a few people in your life you can ever really call your friend. Loving that pivotal moment when you learn to be okay with who GOD made you to be, and no one else. Learning the lesson that when its time to let people go let them go, because some people are only meant to be in your life for a reason or a season. I’ve realized despite how long I’ve been in school the end is near and I can smell it. Despite it all, I’m just me, learning and growing everyday trying to be all that I can be. My name is Ashley; I’m thankful, humble, content and blessed. Who are you?
***I don’t know if I would call this poetry…but these were just some thoughts, and reflections….(*Sigh) oh how things have changed***
I thought we’d be friends for many more years, but as time goes on, our pictures fade and all of our good times seem to drift away.- Anonymous
Taken from the play “Madea goes to Jail”….This is one of the realest things I have ever heard, and someone mentioned this analogy in a meeting I went to today and I just had to share it!
“If somebody wants to walk out of your life, let – them – go!- Some people are meant to come into your life for a lifetime, some for only a season and you got to know which is which. And you’re always messing up when you mix those seasonal people up with lifetime expectations.
I put everybody that comes into my life in the category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree. When the wind blows, they’re over there… wind blow that way they over here… they’re unstable. When the seasons change they wither and die, they’re gone. That’s alright. Most people are like that, they’re not there to do anything but take from the tree and give shade every now and then. That’s all they can do. But don’t get mad at people like that, that’s who they are. That’s all they were put on this earth to be. A leaf.
Some people are like a branch on that tree. You have to be careful with those branches too, cause they’ll fool you. They’ll make you think they’re a good friend and they’re real strong but the minute you step out there on them, they’ll break and leave you high and dry.
But if you find 2 or 3 people in your life that’s like the roots at the bottom of that tree you are blessed. Those are the kind of people that aren’t going nowhere. They aren’t worried about being seen, nobody has to know that they know you, they don’t have to know what they’re doing for you but if those roots weren’t there, that tree couldn’t live.
A tree could have a hundred million branches but it only takes a few roots down at the bottom to make sure that tree gets everything it needs. When you get some roots, hold on to them but the rest of it… just let it go. Let folks go.
.. So today I was thinking about how when I was growing up my parents would always give me advice and they would always say “I tell you this, because I’ve been through it..or Do you think I just tell you this for my health?” and regardless of what they told me I always went against it and learned the hard way…So i decided that I would share 10 things that I have learned in this thing we call “LIFE”. Please share some of your own!
1. Dont depend on other people to do things for you that you can do yourself! No im not saying that you should live life thinking you never need help from anybody, but I am saying that you shouldnt solely depend on other people to do something for you.
2. Dont loan money to people-..so ive heard my mom say this all the time “not to loan money to people; because most likely you wont see it again, you wont see it when you were supposed to, or you wont see the amount you gave out in the beginning.” I believe that you should be mindful when loaning out money to people. I think contracts should be set up, or loan+interest or something. I feel like when you loan money to people they become inconsiderate (I HAVE BILLS TOO). And then people act like when you ask for your money your bothering them, or “If you want it come and get it” type attitude… If someone has given you money Please repay them with the full amount that was given to you in the time that you said you would repay them. You burning bridges doing stuff like this..
**If you have borrowed money from me, and have not paid me back, or didn’t pay me back when you told me you were, please know I WILL NEVER LOAN YOU MONEY AGAIN!..**
3. Always make A & B plans…Never rely solely on one set of plans to work out because most likely they wont. If you have other plans set up then this helps so you’re not left disappointed
4. Always carry a little bit of Cash: I know that some people are strongly against carrying cash, and they are strictly for their credit cards. But it is important to carry some cash ($5, 10 max) this is because you never know when you could catch yourself in an emergency and in a situation where they don’t take credit cards, etc. You never know.
5. Not to be so quick to call everyone my FRIEND!- Not everyone who I meet who is nice, is my friend. It’s that simple. I really don’t think this needs an explanation forreal.
6. Never talk to a guy who has a girl-who breaks up with the girl for ME and then not expect the cycle to happen to me- Yeah, so ladies and gents…If they broke up with someone for YOU, what makes you think they wont do it when someone else comes around..
7. If you put in the work you get results- this goes with anything but for me mainly with school. I struggled tremendously in school growing up, but honestly I really wasn’t putting in the work so I always received satisfactory grades. But now I know if you put in the work you will get positive results!
8. Its not what you know but who you know- It is always always always important to network. You should always try to have business cards, or something with your name and info on it. Have you ever heard of a 30 second commercial? You have 30 seconds to sell yourself! You never know who you will meet and when you will meet them. Opportunities are always there people!
9. 8 is important!- You know how they say 8 hours of sleep is good for you, and 8 glasses of water is good…well its true! I promise you if you try to get at least 8 hours of sleep you will feel amazing..and drinking 8 glasses of water is really good for your body. (I’ll make a post about Eating Healthy Soon)
10.Always carry lotion, gum, and tissues Now I can’t say that I always have these items in my purse. But my mom always taught me to make sure I have these essentials in my purse. 1. You never know when you will accidentally leave the house without putting on your lotion and well you don’t want to have ashy knuckles or knees all day 2. The onions you just had on your salad, that gum will take care of that, or the brother sitting next to you he needs a slice..this way everyone is benefiting
3. Tissues come in handy in all situations. You could spill something, have a boogie, or may need to spit out that gum. Ha ha! Never know!
I really didn’t think that I would have to write this follow up blog until I received numorous text messages, calls and fb chats from different people inquiring about who I am in love with, who broke my heart or the man thats in my life (and if there is one). So I figured that I would address some things. Everything I post DOES NOT have to deal with a current situation. No I am not a love doctor, no I didn’t write that quote hence why it is in quotation marks. Its a quote that i know many people could relate to. We have all been in love before; or what we thought was love. Right? We have had that guy or girl that no matter what he or she did, we still loved them. Taking the attention off of me and my relationships! lol , I figured that others could relate to it in some way or another and I just liked the quote for crying out loud. So again…not everything pertains to a certain situation in MY LIFE!
and last time i checked i was grown >.<…im just saying…
Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it’s when he ignores you and you still love him, it’s when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I’m happy for you, when all you really do is cry.
if you know the author of this quote please let me know.
So after watching Tatyana Ali’s acceptance speech from the Black Girls Rock award show, I was totally inspired to write a letter to my younger self. But then I realized I was technically still young. So I told myself that when I turn 25 (which is 2 years away…yikes I’m getting old) that I would write a letter to my younger self. Anyways, Tatyana’s letter to herself definitely gave me a sense of encouragement especially being a black woman in today’s society. Watch the video, and then maybe it will inspire you to write a letter to your younger self.
I often feel like im giving people advice but never taking my own….Telling myself that i deserve better yet i find myself replying to that text message every time it comes through. Telling myself “this is the last time…” and then I find myself doing it again. Why can we tell other people what they shouldn’t do, yet we continue to do the things we know we shouldn’t….Oh the irony..